This is not about healing, it is about moving forward. We put too much focus on the healing process and not enough attention goes to that next step, healing into practice. The only way to know if you’re really healed and finished with something is to use what you have learned to take action. You can  try it out  and see how you do. You may be afraid that you will get the same results as you did in the past, so you dive into another healing cycle, just to make sure your really healed. All that does is keep you on the healing merry-go-round. Taking action moves you up a level so you can have a new perspective. You can get complete with the situation in a new way resulting in another level of closure.

Closure doesn’t mean happy endings, another belief that can be used to insist that  healing is not complete.  Thinking that still feeling pain, means more work to do but at a new level of awareness. The only way to move to that level is to take some action and then assess the results. If you’re still feeling pain, then more work…. But with a caveat – pain does not mean that the healing work isn’t finished, it may signal  some more closure because you are not congruent, or in harmony with all aspects of that situation.

The opposite of pain is not being pain-free, it is congruence. Pain exists when there is dis-harmony, when the energy in life is not flowing freely. In pain the pieces of life do not fit together – you  want something to work that doesn’t, you want to be happy in situations that don’t allow it, or you love someone who doesn’t love you in the same way. Harmony happens when there is congruence, when you have joy, fulfillment, well-being (which includes the energies of joy, peace, and love).  This comes with the inner work that leads to inner closure. 

Closure doesn’t mean a joyful outcome. Sometimes closure requires acceptance and release, sometimes it means you hear news that confirms your worst fears, but is a source of peace and ending. When looking for every outcome to be a happy one…..this limits ability to have closure. 

Insistence on happy endings and ‘good’ outcomes keeps you stuck in healing cycles. A tough lesson is acceptance. This is being complete with someone’s choices, or a situation that you cannot change. It is also accepting your own limitations when it comes to healing and  helping  others.  This is a ‘self journey’ that can often be made about someone else.  Congruence happens when filling your own empty spaces, when you become congruent from the inside. You are healed and whole on the outside.

Your focus on being congruent, not on healing, or wholeness, or trying to fix someone else  will create the joyful life that you yearn for. Instead of saying ‘I want to be happy’, set an intention for being congruent, so you can create a harmonious flow of energy that all fits and works together.   Every day, find a source of joy to focus on, it doesn’t matter how big or small it is… this can help create a new level of awareness needed to transcend the pain. You can have joyful events in your lives. You can have congruence and harmony more often than not….

A community or extended family that works is one where healthy interdependence is appreciated and supported. Good direction is essential, but strong kinship is dependent upon every member of the community. Trust, shared responsibilities and good communication are essential. Each member must be encouraged to find his or her appropriate expression, and contribution.

The functional family is a team that symbolizes the ideal of human interdependence, and has long provided a firm foundation for society. The healthy family is a microcosm of society and the native soil in which ethical values take root and grow. Fertilize this soil, and the whole of society benefits.

The power that bonds a tribe is the yin or feminine principle — gentleness and receptivity. Relationships are improved through cultivation of these. Learn to accept both advice and aid from others, and be willing to assume an appropriate role in any group that supports good relating. A good team player is always valuable to others. Increase your value!

Where are you bound? What limiting thoughts prevent you from being your authentic Self? What lower emotions keep your heart captive?   Are you keeping your Self small to stay safe? Are you  in relationships that are no longer compatible? Do you dread your work…  staying only for the perceived security?

Honest analysis is the first step towards cultivating the courage to be free.

Answers to these questions will provoke fears that can be faced directly. Whatever  fears  such as failure, rejection or embarrassment…Stay with it …..Move into the discomfort..

Courage is the capacity to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty or intimidation. Once made conscious these fears or “false evidence appearing real” begin to be seen for what they truly are….negative projections of the future. Once these projections can be revealed as one of the numerous possibilities…..they begin to loose their grip over your psyche.

Freeing you to choose where to focus your heart and mind. Allowing space for your wildest dreams to be possible outcomes…..

 

 

 

 

“At times I feel certain I am right while not knowing the reason. When the eclipse of 1919 confirmed my intuition, I was not in the least surprised. In fact, I would have been astonished had it turned out otherwise. Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution. It is, strictly speaking, a real factor in scientific research.” ~

From: Cosmic Religion and Other Opinions and Aphorisms

by Albert Einstein published 1931

 

Chaos allows us to move out of our comfort zones. Chaos shifts and sheds what is no longer serving in life.

Allow yourself to embrace the dance, the fluid movement of our friend chaos. Let go of the known and relax into the confusion. Chaos is equally as treasured as order.  There is no order without chaos, no chaos without order.

Order is the seen, Chaos is the unseen.

Order is our conditioning which is useful to a point. This point only you can know. The symptoms of this edge are typically feeling stuck, lack of vision, lack of purpose and meaninglessness.

Our friend chaos can appear suddenly like a lightening bolt. Shocking our systems to awaken truth. Chaos can slowly rise like a tide….  flooding our psyches with insight. It can shoot you like an arrow in the heart…. falling in love at first sight….

Fear not Chaos…instead Surrender  into her arms…

As Nietzsche once said. “One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star.”

Imagine confusion is lifted…..  We see and understand things we did not see and understand before…..

These insights keep us off the “merry-go-round” of the past (if we choose to be off of it)..  The past seems to offer comfort and security.  We can rely on the past — we know it.  We also know where it leads — what happens.  Today can offer the opportunity for something different.  What if we are offered a chance for something better?

As a previously traumatized species in process of working out of trauma collectively and individually. We rarely consider that things could be better.  Hope does not fit into a trauma response.  Trauma responses are about protecting oneself from harm happening again, so there is no room for hope, only survival.

I suggest we consider taking a step off of the trauma response “merry-go-round” and take a step toward a new way.  This step can start right now, today,  let’s  see and learn something new.

By day’s end, we can see the links and interconnections between things, enabling us to open up space for a different experience — a different future.

To have loving relationships  keep your heart open.  Be willing to be vulnerable. You do not need to build walls that shut people out. Walls imprison you more than keep you safe.  Take down the walls that you may put up between you and others. For walls are obstacles to love. Practice keeping your heart open, even when you are in difficult situations. Doing so awakens your heart center.

When you are willing to be vulnerable, you have nothing to defend. You do not need to apologize, explain yourself, or put distance between yourself and others. You accept yourself as you are. You do not try to live up to an image of perfection so others will think better of you. You stop feeling inferior or superior to others. You are aware of the strength that comes from letting others see that you are not perfect. You recognize that you are lovable, worthy, and wonderful  just as you are…….

 

Demeter was present when Persephone was kidnapped by God Hades but was tricked by Zeus and Hades.

That morning when Demeter descended on Earth with her daughter Persephone , she left her to play with the sea nymphs called Nereids and the Naiads who were the freshwater nymphs of the lakes, springs and rivers.

Persephone and flower Narcissus

Demeter went to supervise her bountiful crops. As Persephone engaged in play and with the rest of the group, her attention fell upon the potently fragrant valley nearby and she couldn’t take her eyes of the yellow flower narcissus. She called upon her playmates to accompany her, but they couldn’t possibly go with her as leaving the side of their water bodies would result in their death.

The flower Narcissus was planted there by Gaia, who was following the orders of Zeus. The goal was to enchant Persephone and attract her, away from her guides.

So, Persephone danced her way to the garden alone and tried to pluck the narcissus from the bosom of Gaia. It drained her energies as the narcissus only came out after a lot of pulling. But suddenly, to her utter fright, she saw the tiny hole from which she had drawn out the flower shaft, began to rapid grow in size until it started to resemble a mighty enormous chasm.

Hades Kidnapping Persephone

From this came the vigorous galloping sounds of multiple horses and such sudden happenings only froze the frail beauty to her feet. Out of all her friends only the naiad Cyane tried to rescue the crying Persephone but she was no match for the powerful Hades. Bereaving her friend’s kidnap, Cyane melted into a pool of tears and formed the river Cyane at the spot.

Goddess Demeter trying to find Persephone

Demeter rushed back to where she had left her daughter and found only the Cyane river there with the other nymphs weeping. Worried as she was, she asked all as to the whereabouts of her beloved daughter.

Nobody could tell her anything at all and furious that they couldn’t protect her child, she cursed all the nymphs into becoming heinous women with plumed bodies and scaly feet, called the sirens. It was only the river Cyane who helped her by washing over the belt of Persephone, indicating that something gravely wrong had happened.

Demeter went mad and hunted for her daughter everywhere. The myth says that she even disguised herself  as an aged lady and with lighted torched in her hands roamed the Earth for nine long days and nine long nights.

Finally, she met Hekate, the deity of magic, witchcraft, spirits and crossroads, at the dawn of the 10th day who had pity at her dismal condition and asked her to seek help from the all seeing Helios, the sun god. Helios told Demeter all about how Hades had dragged Persephone into the underworld.

Persephone in the Underworld

Persephone’s mother, Demeter, begged her brother Hades to allow Persephone to come back to the livings, denoting that the young Persephone was not supposed to live in the underworld. Hades consulted with Zeus and they both decided to allow Persephone to live on earth for six months each year, while the rest of the time she would be on his side in the Underworld.

Before leaving the underworld, Persephone had been persuaded to eat four seeds of a pomegranate. In ancient mythology, to eat the fruit of one’s captor meant that one would have to return to that captor or country, so Persephone was doomed to return to the underworld for four months of the year. But she was allowed to spend the remaining two-thirds of the year with her Earth Mother, Demeter.

The myth of Hades and Persephone is associated with the coming of Spring and Winter: When Persephone comes to the Earth, it’s springtime. When she descends to Hades, it is winter.

What they didn’t tell you about Persephone’s first trip to the Underworld.

That she liked it.
That she had to give up parts of herself to dwell there.
That she discovered them anew later.
That when she’d surrendered them, and submitted herself to Hades’ power, she learned of new powers within herself.
That she hated it.
That her heart broke The. Whole. Time.
That in keeping it open despite the blood and viscera pouring out into the ground at her feet, she nourished the soil above and below.
That her heart grew bigger with the breaking.
That she hated herself for liking it.
That she loved herself for wanting it.
That she would have died, surely, had she not allowed herself to be taken.
For she did allow herself.
It was the only way Hades could have ever managed to take her.

She’s the part of you that carries the miracle frequencies that are activated when you follow the call of your heart’s deepest, truest love. 

In the Deep Time, Psyche was understood to be the first human woman to realize her divine essence. Her path was uniquely feminine. It was not the masculine path of heroes and their doing. Psyche did not possess great knowledge, skill, or courage. What she had was the capacity to follow her heart’s truth — even when it led her beyond what she knew how to do or to be. That capacity changed the Universe. You have it too. Do you feel it waking up within you?

Our sensitivity can empower us in ways we can’t quite understand. Find out what kind of an empath you are and how you can become a better person through simple awareness.

In today’s society, sensitivity is viewed as a weakness, which is kind of ironic because our sensitivity can be quite empowering.

So, how can we become empowered by a trait that makes us soft and delicate, in a world dominated by loud and overpowering people? Yes, it is true that many empaths may seem weak and even get overpowered, but there is another aspect to this sensitivity.

Deep down, way beyond the veil of our superficial personas, all empaths have something distinctly quiet and quite powerful. This power doesn’t dominate or overpower people but rather empowers one in an extremely useful way.

This gift allows empaths to benefit in the long term by gathering psychological, emotional, and physical information from their surroundings. This information is usually inaccessible to the unreceptive mind.

Although it is indeed correct that empaths cannot bully people or use brute force, they can however, protect, guide, heal, and deeply understand the people around them.

In this way, they can gather incredible amounts of information and how they use this knowledge is at their discretion. Knowledge is, after all, the greatest power.

Think You Are An Empath?

If you suspect that you are more sensitive than the people around you, then continue reading to find out if you too are an empath in an insensitive world.

If you really are an empath, you will recognize some of these experiences that are faced by most empaths:

You tend to absorb other people’s feelings and emotions and experience them as your own
You consistently feel mental and physical fatigue
Your emotional state tends to swing throughout a day based on external stimuli
If someone close to you is in physical pain, you can feel their pain in your own body
You cherish solitude, which helps you refresh and recharge
People prefer to come to you with their problems
You simply cannot bear violence or cruelty
You are naturally caring and nurturing
You are an excellent listener
Your awareness of our physical environment is greater than normal, e.g. your sense of taste, smell, hearing, touch, etc.
Crowded places tend to overwhelm and drain you
Animals and children seem to be attracted to you

Different Types of Empaths

Yes, being an empath can have many benefits, but at the same time, it can also weigh you down and cause anxiety. This is one of the reasons why it is important to understand our individual experiences in the hope to better understand ourselves.

The following is a list of different types of empaths and a small description to help you understand what kind of an empath you may be.

1. Physically Receptive Empath

Many empaths seem to be receptive to the physical pains and illnesses of other people. The pain can manifest in the empath’s own body – an ability which has proven to be extremely useful in healing.

2. Emotionally Receptive Empath

Almost all empaths are extremely receptive of external emotional states. This can result in physically and emotionally feeling other people’s emotions before they are expressed.

3. Claircognizant Empath

Claircognizant empaths have the ability to know if something needs to be done or if a statement of a person’s intentions is true or misleading, without any rational reasoning. Such empaths have the ability to know if they should do something or not.

4. Geomantic Empaths

These empaths have the ability to read signals and energy transmitted from the soil or earth. Meaning, they can feel if a natural disaster is impending.

5. Fanna Empath

Fanna empaths can feel, hear, and interact with animals.

6. Medium Empath

Medium empaths, as the name suggests, can either feel, see or hear spirits.

7. Flora Empath

Slightly similar to Fanna Empaths, as they can communicate with plants by being able to feel or receive their signals.

8. Psychometric Empath

These empaths develop the ability to receive energy, impressions, and information from inanimate objects such as jewelry, photographs, etc.

9. Telepathic Empath

Telepathic empaths can accurately read another peron’s unexpressed thoughts.

10. Precognitive Empath

Such empaths can feel a situation or event before its occurrence. These usually manifests in the form of dreams of emotional or physical sensations.

In this insensitive and coarse world, empaths can often find it difficult to maintain their inner harmony. But with self-awareness, everyone, including empaths, can learn to appreciate their unique gifts and abilities.

Hopefully, this article will help you find some answers to your questions. We would love it if you would share your experiences with us all.

About the author: Dylan is a 31-year-old surfer from California. He traveled the world, rode the waves and learned the universal concept of oneness. He is a vegan for over a decade and, literally, wouldn’t hurt a fly.  [🙂]  He was reunited with his twin soul in Greece, where they got married and settled… for now. Dylan is a staff writer for DreamcatcherReality.com and teaches surfing to children.