This is not about healing, it is about moving forward. We put too much focus on the healing process and not enough attention goes to that next step, healing into practice. The only way to know if you’re really healed and finished with something is to use what you have learned to take action. You can  try it out  and see how you do. You may be afraid that you will get the same results as you did in the past, so you dive into another healing cycle, just to make sure your really healed. All that does is keep you on the healing merry-go-round. Taking action moves you up a level so you can have a new perspective. You can get complete with the situation in a new way resulting in another level of closure.

Closure doesn’t mean happy endings, another belief that can be used to insist that  healing is not complete.  Thinking that still feeling pain, means more work to do but at a new level of awareness. The only way to move to that level is to take some action and then assess the results. If you’re still feeling pain, then more work…. But with a caveat – pain does not mean that the healing work isn’t finished, it may signal  some more closure because you are not congruent, or in harmony with all aspects of that situation.

The opposite of pain is not being pain-free, it is congruence. Pain exists when there is dis-harmony, when the energy in life is not flowing freely. In pain the pieces of life do not fit together – you  want something to work that doesn’t, you want to be happy in situations that don’t allow it, or you love someone who doesn’t love you in the same way. Harmony happens when there is congruence, when you have joy, fulfillment, well-being (which includes the energies of joy, peace, and love).  This comes with the inner work that leads to inner closure. 

Closure doesn’t mean a joyful outcome. Sometimes closure requires acceptance and release, sometimes it means you hear news that confirms your worst fears, but is a source of peace and ending. When looking for every outcome to be a happy one…..this limits ability to have closure. 

Insistence on happy endings and ‘good’ outcomes keeps you stuck in healing cycles. A tough lesson is acceptance. This is being complete with someone’s choices, or a situation that you cannot change. It is also accepting your own limitations when it comes to healing and  helping  others.  This is a ‘self journey’ that can often be made about someone else.  Congruence happens when filling your own empty spaces, when you become congruent from the inside. You are healed and whole on the outside.

Your focus on being congruent, not on healing, or wholeness, or trying to fix someone else  will create the joyful life that you yearn for. Instead of saying ‘I want to be happy’, set an intention for being congruent, so you can create a harmonious flow of energy that all fits and works together.   Every day, find a source of joy to focus on, it doesn’t matter how big or small it is… this can help create a new level of awareness needed to transcend the pain. You can have joyful events in your lives. You can have congruence and harmony more often than not….



A community or extended family that works is one where healthy interdependence is appreciated and supported. Good direction is essential, but strong kinship is dependent upon every member of the community. Trust, shared responsibilities and good communication are essential. Each member must be encouraged to find his or her appropriate expression, and contribution.

The functional family is a team that symbolizes the ideal of human interdependence, and has long provided a firm foundation for society. The healthy family is a microcosm of society and the native soil in which ethical values take root and grow. Fertilize this soil, and the whole of society benefits.

The power that bonds a tribe is the yin or feminine principle — gentleness and receptivity. Relationships are improved through cultivation of these. Learn to accept both advice and aid from others, and be willing to assume an appropriate role in any group that supports good relating. A good team player is always valuable to others. Increase your value!

Courage to be Free…


Where are you bound? What limiting thoughts prevent you from being your authentic Self? What lower emotions keep your heart captive?   Are you keeping your Self small to stay safe? Are you  in relationships that are no longer compatible? Do you dread your work…  staying only for the perceived security?

Honest analysis is the first step towards cultivating the courage to be free.

Answers to these questions will provoke fears that can be faced directly. Whatever  fears  such as failure, rejection or embarrassment…Stay with it …..Move into the discomfort..

Courage is the capacity to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty or intimidation. Once made conscious these fears or “false evidence appearing real” begin to be seen for what they truly are….negative projections of the future. Once these projections can be revealed as one of the numerous possibilities…..they begin to loose their grip over your psyche.

Freeing you to choose where to focus your heart and mind. Allowing space for your wildest dreams to be possible outcomes…..






“At times I feel certain I am right while not knowing the reason. When the eclipse of 1919 confirmed my intuition, I was not in the least surprised. In fact, I would have been astonished had it turned out otherwise. Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution. It is, strictly speaking, a real factor in scientific research.” ~

From: Cosmic Religion and Other Opinions and Aphorisms

by Albert Einstein published 1931