“You have no control over how your story begins or ends. But by now, you should know that all things have an ending. Every spark returns to darkness. Every sound returns to silence. Every flower returns to sleep with the earth. The journey of the sun and moon is predictable. But yours, is your ultimate art”
~ Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem 

The Tao is always at ease.
It overcomes everything without competing,
answers without speaking a word,
arrives without being summoned,
accomplishes without a plan.
Its net covers the whole universe.
And though its meshes are wide,
it doesn’t let a thing slip through.

I am open to the guidance of synchronicity,
and do not let expectations hinder my path.’
– Dalai Lama

Expectations usually come from the ego. The ego dictates how things should unfold and when. But when we open up, we are guided by something far bigger, through synchronicities.

Synchronicities signal alignment with vibrational alignment, which indicates a match of frequency. Basically we are attracting frequencies which match the same attraction and ignite the ability to manifest our desires. So when “coincidences” keep happening, it is the universe telling us that we are getting “warmer” and closer to manifesting our desires. Coincidences can be messages in the form of symbols, dreams, and subconscious thoughts, which have meanings to us and will guide us if we pay attention. We need to recognize that divine order is operating.

Many times we dismiss these messages because of our conflicting expectations, which come from the ego. The ego directs our conscious and dictates how and when things should unfold. Unfortunately, we miss many opportunities that could guide us to better opportunities, if we were open to the synchronicities in plain site.

Fitting in is overrated. Even if you get really good at it, whatever you think you win as a result isn’t really a prize worth winning. So let me say this: Fitting out is hard, but fitting in is harder. You know that already, because there have been plenty of times in your life where you’ve stood at the crossroads of trying to fit in or be yourself.

At first, removing a little bit of our unique personality may not seem like it will do much harm, but we’d be delusional to think that it stops with just one thing. Soon enough we’ve eliminated so much of who we really are that what results is nothing less than Spiritual Amnesia. Living only half a life as some sort of spiritual amnesiac requires we do the self-work of uncovering who we really are, and start living as our true selves. Otherwise, without self-awareness, you’ll always feel internally chaotic.

Spiritual practice has taught me that being clear on our own identity is an essential foundation for a happy life. Pretending to be “normal” is a formula for disappointment and unhappiness.

The question is, what is your truth? What if you stopped pretending to fit in?

It’s our responsibility to be extraordinary and give up all hope for remaining generic carbon copies. We must stop pretending to fit in and find the courage to be exactly as we are. Love yourself, love your day, love your life!

10 Inspiring Quotes on “Fitting Out”

1. “Those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it.”

― Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?

2. “We all want to be extraordinary

and we all just want to fit in.

Unfortunately, extraordinary people rarely fit in.”

― Sebastyne Young

3. “There are people who are generic. They make generic responses and they expect generic answers. They live inside a box and they think people who don’t fit into their box are weird. But I’ll tell you what, generic people are the weird people. They are like genetically manipulated plants growing inside a laboratory, like indistinguishable faces, like droids.”

― C. JoyBell C.

4. “We’re all misfits here … Halfies and homos and hopeless romantics, the outcast and outrageous and terminally weird. That’s where art comes from. From our weirdnesses and our differences, from our manic fixations, our obsessions, our passions. From all those wild and wacky things that make each of us unique.”

― Terri Windling, Welcome to Bordertown

5. “It’s not the job of this town to make me feel happy. It’s not this town´s fault that I don’t feel I fit in. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world, because it’s about where you are in your head. It’s about the other world I inhabit. The world of dreams, hope, imagination, and memories. I’m happy up here, and because of that I’m happy up there too”

― Cecelia Ahern, If You Could See Me Now

6. “We’re so quick to cut away pieces of ourselves to suit a particular relationship, a job, a circle of friends, incessantly editing who we are until we fit in.”

― Charles de Lint

7. “I myself am opaque, for some reason. Their eyes cannot see me. Yes, that’s it: The world is autistic with respect to me.”

― Anne Nesbet, The Cabinet of Earths

8. “Honestly, if you don’t fit in then you’re probably doing the right thing.”

― Lights Poxleitner

9. “But you don’t have to fit in to be OK. Believe me! I am the not-fitting-in world expert. I have not fit in maybe five different countries so far. But it’s not a big deal, not really. It’s OK.”

― Anne Nesbet, The Cabinet of Earths

10. “Maybe it’s wrong-footed trying to fit people into the world, rather than trying to make the world a better place for people.

― Paul McHugh, in The New Yorker

Flow.Relax and let resistance diminish… You may not be able to change the direction of the wind, but by frequently adjusting your sails, you can arrive at your destination.

Those who would be loved must become the envisioned lover of their beloved. Those who would prosper must bend with natural forces and the pressures of society. In matters of principle, stand firm; in matters of style and taste, swim with the current.

In all human affairs, change is constant. In order to stay fresh, old ideas and patterns must continually be discarded in favor of new ones. Only by being adaptable to the demands of the time can the highest good emerge. Only by adjusting to changing circumstances can you prosper. Remain flexible, and you will gain the confidence of those around you. Bend and you shall not break.