“Wisdom tells me I am nothing, Love tells me I am everything. Between the two my life flows.”
(loosely quoted from Nisargadatta Maharaj).

“Tell me the story about how the sun loved the moon so much he died every night to let her breathe.”
” There once was a moon, as beautiful as can be, only the stars could fathom, but the sun could not see. The sun so radiant, he burns so bright. The moon so luminous, but only showed her face during the night. She was untouchable, surrounding herself with a blanket of darkness. The sun would give anything to catch a glimpse of the Moon illuminating the beautiful night sky.

Until one day when the Sun was sliding out of the heavens, he caught a glimpse of her. She was peeking up, a rare side of her being exposed to the light. And while the Sun could shine, he knew the Moon could glow.

Just as the Stars were wandering into the night, the Sun fell in love like a snowball hurding down a mountain. How he wished to see her move than the fleeting moments he shared with her at both dawn and dusk. But they were a world apart.

“Go,” she whispered to him one of those nights, her voice as sweet and sorrowful as the last light of morning. “Go and let me breathe, for you and I have decided fates. You illuminate the day, and I cast a glow one the night. We will never be. Our connection would go against what all the people believe, all they know” During the summer he would stay a little longer just in case she would change his mind. It was no use.

“Don’t you dare abandon your blessing of light for my darkness.” And those were the last words the Moon was strong enough to speak to the Sun.

The Sun could feel her peaceful soul and it soon became clear. He would die each and every night to let his true love breathe, for it would put an end to all her misery.

” a tale like this should be heard and seen.”

“And no one will know it is the story of you and me.”

Where we put our attention and our energy is also what we create in our life. This includes our negative thoughts because they have a lot of energy that can make them happen. We must be careful where we are putting our attention.

When our attention has energy and emotion that same energy has Life Force. It will materialize what we are thinking. It is wise to remain centered and peaceful inside. Observe your thoughts without being attached to them and you can choose which thoughts to put energy and attention to.

This is a powerful gift and a tool that we must learn to use wisely. When we feel negative, relax and know that this negative thought is born of old karma. Let go of it and not think too seriously about it. The old karma is just trying to get out of your body and leave. Even if your mind is gripped by the thoughts and emotions, you don’t have to think this is serious and act on it. Refrain from action and observe the karma going out without being attached to it. Set it free like a balloon into the air: no destination, just simply let it fly away.

When we feel love and goodness in our thoughts and emotions, trust that the universe will take care of this desire. Trust the universe completely and don’t think about it any more. When we have no attachment and trust the universe, it will materialize and bring us what we need. What we need may not be the same as what we expect. The universe knows best. Too much thinking and too much worry will only interfere with what the universe can do for you. The universe is here to help you, but you must let go and trust that it will happen. This is the way to happiness.

“You have no control over how your story begins or ends. But by now, you should know that all things have an ending. Every spark returns to darkness. Every sound returns to silence. Every flower returns to sleep with the earth. The journey of the sun and moon is predictable. But yours, is your ultimate art”
~ Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem 

The Tao is always at ease.
It overcomes everything without competing,
answers without speaking a word,
arrives without being summoned,
accomplishes without a plan.
Its net covers the whole universe.
And though its meshes are wide,
it doesn’t let a thing slip through.

I am open to the guidance of synchronicity,
and do not let expectations hinder my path.’
– Dalai Lama

Expectations usually come from the ego. The ego dictates how things should unfold and when. But when we open up, we are guided by something far bigger, through synchronicities.

Synchronicities signal alignment with vibrational alignment, which indicates a match of frequency. Basically we are attracting frequencies which match the same attraction and ignite the ability to manifest our desires. So when “coincidences” keep happening, it is the universe telling us that we are getting “warmer” and closer to manifesting our desires. Coincidences can be messages in the form of symbols, dreams, and subconscious thoughts, which have meanings to us and will guide us if we pay attention. We need to recognize that divine order is operating.

Many times we dismiss these messages because of our conflicting expectations, which come from the ego. The ego directs our conscious and dictates how and when things should unfold. Unfortunately, we miss many opportunities that could guide us to better opportunities, if we were open to the synchronicities in plain site.

Fitting in is overrated. Even if you get really good at it, whatever you think you win as a result isn’t really a prize worth winning. So let me say this: Fitting out is hard, but fitting in is harder. You know that already, because there have been plenty of times in your life where you’ve stood at the crossroads of trying to fit in or be yourself.

At first, removing a little bit of our unique personality may not seem like it will do much harm, but we’d be delusional to think that it stops with just one thing. Soon enough we’ve eliminated so much of who we really are that what results is nothing less than Spiritual Amnesia. Living only half a life as some sort of spiritual amnesiac requires we do the self-work of uncovering who we really are, and start living as our true selves. Otherwise, without self-awareness, you’ll always feel internally chaotic.

Spiritual practice has taught me that being clear on our own identity is an essential foundation for a happy life. Pretending to be “normal” is a formula for disappointment and unhappiness.

The question is, what is your truth? What if you stopped pretending to fit in?

It’s our responsibility to be extraordinary and give up all hope for remaining generic carbon copies. We must stop pretending to fit in and find the courage to be exactly as we are. Love yourself, love your day, love your life!

10 Inspiring Quotes on “Fitting Out”

1. “Those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it.”

― Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?

2. “We all want to be extraordinary

and we all just want to fit in.

Unfortunately, extraordinary people rarely fit in.”

― Sebastyne Young

3. “There are people who are generic. They make generic responses and they expect generic answers. They live inside a box and they think people who don’t fit into their box are weird. But I’ll tell you what, generic people are the weird people. They are like genetically manipulated plants growing inside a laboratory, like indistinguishable faces, like droids.”

― C. JoyBell C.

4. “We’re all misfits here … Halfies and homos and hopeless romantics, the outcast and outrageous and terminally weird. That’s where art comes from. From our weirdnesses and our differences, from our manic fixations, our obsessions, our passions. From all those wild and wacky things that make each of us unique.”

― Terri Windling, Welcome to Bordertown

5. “It’s not the job of this town to make me feel happy. It’s not this town´s fault that I don’t feel I fit in. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world, because it’s about where you are in your head. It’s about the other world I inhabit. The world of dreams, hope, imagination, and memories. I’m happy up here, and because of that I’m happy up there too”

― Cecelia Ahern, If You Could See Me Now

6. “We’re so quick to cut away pieces of ourselves to suit a particular relationship, a job, a circle of friends, incessantly editing who we are until we fit in.”

― Charles de Lint

7. “I myself am opaque, for some reason. Their eyes cannot see me. Yes, that’s it: The world is autistic with respect to me.”

― Anne Nesbet, The Cabinet of Earths

8. “Honestly, if you don’t fit in then you’re probably doing the right thing.”

― Lights Poxleitner

9. “But you don’t have to fit in to be OK. Believe me! I am the not-fitting-in world expert. I have not fit in maybe five different countries so far. But it’s not a big deal, not really. It’s OK.”

― Anne Nesbet, The Cabinet of Earths

10. “Maybe it’s wrong-footed trying to fit people into the world, rather than trying to make the world a better place for people.

― Paul McHugh, in The New Yorker

Flow.Relax and let resistance diminish… You may not be able to change the direction of the wind, but by frequently adjusting your sails, you can arrive at your destination.

Those who would be loved must become the envisioned lover of their beloved. Those who would prosper must bend with natural forces and the pressures of society. In matters of principle, stand firm; in matters of style and taste, swim with the current.

In all human affairs, change is constant. In order to stay fresh, old ideas and patterns must continually be discarded in favor of new ones. Only by being adaptable to the demands of the time can the highest good emerge. Only by adjusting to changing circumstances can you prosper. Remain flexible, and you will gain the confidence of those around you. Bend and you shall not break.