The Masculine/Yang Side:
The masculine or Yang side deals with the strength of the self. It is what causes you to act either timidly or self-confidently. The thing that is most important in determining the strength of the masculine side, is the value that you, at a deep level, place on yourself. This is a value you know within yourself that you have really and truly earned. It could be thought of as a sort of self-esteem. Placing a high value on yourself affects your whole being and helps you feel strong and confident in operating your life. And when can operate your life with confidence, you get more out of life. Things can really turn around for you, and this automatically makes you place a higher value on yourself. You can build the masculine side through progress and small wins, through positive reinforcement, by practicing, and by generally taking an active part in operating your life.
If you have a strong masculine/Yang side, you are in charge of your own life because you are internally controlled. You tend to look people in the eye. You stand straight, and you usually command attention when you walk into a room, whether you say anything or not. This happens because of the strength within. If you have a weak masculine side, you also have a lot of doubts. You doubt yourself, your abilities, your capability to do things. Things intimidate you and you don’t move forward well. You are afraid to put yourself out there because you know you are going to fail, so you don’t even try to accomplish things. If you have a weak masculine side, you often feel the need to show off your attributes and accomplishments, whereas if you have a strong masculine side you are self-confident, and don’t feel it is necessary to show off.
The masculine/yang side is full of things that you have to be strong and self-confident in order to do. These include being able to claim your basic rights, such as the right to feel free to operate independently of others, and the right to belong or fit into society in any way you please. Claiming your rights also includes being able to stand up to people who try to take away your rights, either by force or intimidation, or by manipulation, or by trying to hinder you in choosing your own direction in life. The masculine side also includes the ability to be decisive, to take risks when appropriate, and to focus intently and concentrate in order to get things done. In addition, a strong masculine side builds common sense, which helps you figure out how to accomplish things and get more of what you want out of life. This includes figuring out how to operate your life in a responsible manner, how to reason without distorting reality and without fooling yourself, and how to accurately weigh probabilities so that you know the most likely outcome to expect in situations you come across.
The Feminine/Yin Side:
The feminine/Yin side is also based on a value. But instead of a being a value you place on yourself, the feminine side is based, at the same deep level, on a value that you place on others. It could be thought of as a sort of “other-esteem”. This value affects your whole being. If you have a strong feminine side and place a high value on others, you are often giving and unselfish. You usually know what is good for people, and you tend to operate in ways that help others get what they want out of life. You happily let people operate their own life without interference from you, but when asked, you are also willing to help by supporting, cooperating, and giving advice. People feel comfortable with you because you give who you are without pushing yourself on others. If you have a strong feminine side, people also feel comfortable being around you because there is no selfishness for them to detect.
If you have a weak feminine side, you place a low value on others, and you are not a giving person. Instead, you are selfish and greedy and tend to keep yourself closed off from people. You are isolated because you don’t want to share yourself or share anything you have. Also, you don’t take responsibility for yourself but blame others for your problems. Although the feminine side is generally not as well understood as the masculine side, the negative or selfish aspect of a low feminine side is something almost everybody recognizes, especially in others. In fact, it may be the most easily recognizable characteristic of all, because of the element of discomfort involved in being with a selfish person. If someone has a weak feminine side, it could also be said that he has a strong “dark side” (the evil or negatively motivated side). In someone with a strong dark side, there is usually an imbalance in which the feminine side is very weak, while the masculine side is much stronger. In the extreme situation where a person has an almost nonexistent feminine side, he will often act in ways that could be considered evil in nature, because he acts only on his own behalf, and does it to such an extent that he doesn’t care how much his actions hurt others in the process.
If you have a strong feminine side, you often behave in ways that are considered feminine in nature. You do things that you have to be giving and unselfish in order to do. This includes recognizing people’s basic human rights and allowing them to operate their life without interfering with those rights. For example, allowing them the freedom to operate independently, and the freedom to fit into society wherever and however they want, even the freedom to let people choose when to face up to reality and when to be in denial. Allowing people their basic rights include letting them control their own life, letting them choose what to believe without being manipulated by you, and letting them choose their own path or direction in life without hindrance from you. The feminine side also includes having an enthusiasm and zest for life and recognizing what things are worth getting enthusiastic about. And it includes having the persistence and tenacity to stay with something until it is finished, while still knowing when to give up on it if your energy is better used elsewhere. In addition, the feminine side also includes being kind, compassionate, patient, responsive to the needs of others, and it includes the ability to limit the amount of energy you put into helping people, to keep from hurting yourself or draining your own energy.
The masculine/feminine or yin/yang balance is extremely important, almost more important than how much you have grown as a person. Even a less evolved person, if he is balanced, treats others the same way he treats himself. And that is what balance is all about. If the masculine side is much stronger than the feminine side, you tend to be pushy and take unfair advantage of people. On the other hand, if the feminine side is much stronger than the masculine side, you tend to let others take advantage of you, and you become a doormat for people. How can you tell which side is stronger for you? The balance between fear and anger in your life is a good indication. If the masculine side is stronger than the feminine side, you tend to feel anger more easily than fear. The greater the imbalance in this direction, the more easily you will feel unjustly treated by others, and the more easily you will become angry and aggressive with them because you have an unrealistically high opinion of your own rights compared to those of others. Conversely, if the feminine side is stronger than the masculine side, you tend to feel fear more easily than anger. The greater the imbalance in this direction, the more easily you will feel you are treating others unfairly, and the more easily you will become defensive and fearful because you have an unrealistically low opinion of your own rights as compared to those of others.
We Choose each other’s company and sit in each other’s embrace.
Come closer friends, to the edge of your seats, so we can glimpse each other’s true face.
We have made pacts and agreements from within,
So don’t imagine that we are merely what you see.
This moment, as we sit together wine in our hands, and flowers in our sleeves….
….We have passage from the seen to the unseen, for we travel alongside the messenger of faith.
We know the way from house to garden; we dwell with jasmines and cypresses.
Every day we enter the meadow and find flowers, newly bloomed….
….We harvest them by the skirtful; and gift them to lovers, everywhere.
So don’t hold back your heart; for we are not thieves
We are safe keepers, we are guardians.
Each breath that we take, carries that flower’s scent like a gentle breeze;
We are the rosebush rooted in the meadow of knowingness.
We’ve filled the world with the scent of that flower, sending a signal:
“Come, we are in this state.”
She detects our scents when we detect hers and though we seem meager,
She renders us grand.
We are the humble servants of Love and we are Love itself, lying in wait…..
A Poem by Rumi
Beauty unveils His exquisite form
in the solitude of nothingness;
He holds a mirror to His Face
and beholds His own beauty.
he is the knower and the known,
the seer and the seen;
No eye but His own
has ever looked upon this Universe.
His every quality finds an expression:
Eternity becomes the verdant field of Time and Space;
Love, the life-giving garden of this world.
Every branch and leaf and fruit
Reveals an aspect of His perfection-
The cypress give hint of His majesty,
The rose gives tidings of His beauty.
Whenever Beauty looks,
Love is also there;
Whenever beauty shows a rosy cheek
Love lights Her fire from that flame.
When beauty dwells in the dark folds of night
Love comes and finds a heart
entangled in tresses.
Beauty and Love are as body and soul.
Beauty is the mine, Love is the diamond.
They have together
since the beginning of time-
Side by side, step by step.
Your physical body exists at a specific location in space and time. In order to relocate physically, you have to travel to the new location. Your mind, however, is free to roam to different locations and even to other points in time. In recent decades, remote reveiwing– the mental viewing of remote locations – has been developed into a highly disciplined method of obtaining information from other locations in time and space. This skill of consciousness allows us to be able to further realize our capacity to create our own reality.
Solidity, space and time are all projections of consciousness in the theater of life. They are nowhere near as fixed as we have been led to believe.
When a particularly vivid example of deja vu occurs, it is not just the recall of a recent dream, it is more likely to be a real-time connection with your inner self – your complete consciousness – when time and space become flexible.
Your inner self can look into how a plan of action would work out by connecting with the actual event at the time and space location where the event will occur. It can be a little disorienting to be living your regular life and suddenly have a brief connection with your inner self that exists beyond our perception of time and space.
In fact, you can come out of such a contact with your complete, inner self consciousness wondering – just for a split-second – where you are, and what the date is today! Such an experience is an excellent example of the wide-ranging consciousness of your inner self. It has the ability to relocate to and directly experience other locations in space and time.
Practices such as meditation and any activities that promote consciousness expansion, will support this type of inner development in accelerating rapidly.
Flexibility is allowing people or things to change when they need to. This includes allowing the external world to operate as it must without having to ask your permission. Flexibility is the opposite of rigidity. It is the ability to feel comfortable about yielding to things you can not control, or that you don’t have the right to control. It is the ability to respond positively by adapting to changes that happen but are outside your control. It is being able to let things and people exist in their own way, without attempting to control and direct them. It is allowing others to control the direction of their own lives without hindering or obstructing their choices. Flexibility includes not being afraid of having to adapt to new or different circumstances just because they are new or different.
If you are a flexible person, you find it easy to let others control their own life’s direction. You respond positively when people change path or direction in life, or suddenly decide to do something you consider very different. As a flexible person, you also know that the world makes changes without asking your permission. You understand that external circumstances (things outside your control) have the right to change in their own way, and often do. You find it easy to “go with the flow” and readily adapt when circumstances or other things change around you, or when the external world in general decides to throw you a curve. You adapt to change in a flexible way because you understand the obligation to let go of control when the external world makes changes in how it operates.
Flexibility comes from understanding at a deep level that it is a basic human right for every person to choose his own direction in life, and to choose when to make changes and take his life in an entirely new or different direction. This means you have the right to choose when and how to make changes in your own life. It includes the freedom to change your mind, change your opinions, change your attitudes, change your direction in life. Feeling free to make changes is an empowering attitude or quality that lets you choose how and when to change anything about yourself or about your life.
To be empowered to decide your own life’s direction and choose when to make changes in your life, you must not be afraid to stand up to well meaning father figures or other figures of authority who rigidly want you to follow a course that they approve of. Keep in mind that someone’s disapproval is not enough reason for you to change your path or direction in life. Only you have the real power to determine where to go with your life, and it is your will that decides when it is time to change, and only you can choose the course of your own life. Realizing you have the right to chart your own course in life makes it easier to choose the direction and the changes that are best for you.
Every human right has two sides to it, namely the right as it applies to you, and the right as you must let it apply to everyone else. And to be fair, the right must be the same for both. The consequence of this is that you have the right to determine your life’s direction without interference from others, and others (and the external world and circumstance in general) have the right to determine their life’s direction without interference from you. The more you recognize this as a basic human right, the easier it will become for you to exert control over your own direction or path in life, and let go of trying to control the direction of other people’s lives, and of circumstances that end up placing you in particular situations. Understanding the true meaning of this right will help you stand up to rigid people who try to keep you from making changes in your life, and it will also help you understand your obligation to let others choose when and how to make changes in their lives. You will find it easier to let other people control their own life’s direction, and this will increase your own flexibility. It will help you to “go with the flow” of circumstances that you know are outside your right to control.
Since you know you have the right to control only what is internal to you, you also know you have the obligation to let go of control when the external world makes changes in how it operates. This understanding is what allows you to adapt to external changes in a flexible way.
If you are emotionally inflexible, or rigid, you don’t like change and you tend to have trouble allowing the outside world and the people around you to make changes. This can make you heavy-handed, bossy and authoritarian with those around you. You sometimes browbeat or otherwise hinder someone you care about from using his own will to operate his own life. As an inflexible person, you are afraid of change because you are afraid of the unknown, and you will do almost anything to avoid the unfamiliar.